I don't want a dog. Apparently, everyone in the house wants one. But. I. Don't. Now, do not get me wrong. I love dogs. Seriously, if you had a litter of puppies at your house and I really thought you were a jerk- I would still be tempted to visit. Dogs are great and the bigger the better. Doesn't mean I want to own one. They require time and a lot of space and I have very little of either. Now, usually I just assent tacitly, okay, do what you want. This time that thought is cringe worthy which has left me wondering if I am turning into a *itch.
So I consulted askmen.com and found an article entitled "Top Ten Signs that she is a *itch". According to the website there were some tell tale signs that I am sure do not apply to me: bossing my man around and belittling him in public, flirting with other guys and being cold hearted and manipulative. The article also stresses that a *itch will slight you in bed. Laughable. Yep, could go a hundred million years and never worry about becoming that girl.
Of course, I did not get off scott free in the article. It also states, she expects to be treated like a queen. Well, duh. I am a woman. To quote the article "She constantly expects car rides, gifts and attention from you". Hmmm, could be nice and I clearly wouldn't be opposed to a ride to the job that helps pay the bills, or the occasional thoughtful gift or moment when it wasn't always about everybody else's life and their needs. The website is not clear on whether any of these things has had to ever actually happen in order to make me an evil witch or if only my pipe dream that they might gives me the title.
Lastly, the most questionable subject of all comes up, when the story states that *itches are selfish and treat people like trash. I am stumped. This one is a conundrum for me. Balance between my feelings and needs and those of others is a big fat red flag hot button issue. I have had someone who should have known better say "Its always about you isn't it?" Which would lead one to believe that I am a self centered fool. Am I?
I can only say that I try. Hard. I spend the vast majority of my day doing things that need to be done or that others want to do. I stand back when I feel I am imposing or boring or just not fun to be around. I look ahead to how my actions are going affect someone a week or a month or a year from now in addition to today. I often deprive myself of things or sleep to provide or give to others. I live biting my tongue because I know how defeating it is to hear complaint after complaint. Personally, I do not see myself as selfish. I treat people pretty well. I just get uncomfortable because the feedback I get on the subject is so negative. Perhaps my self view is hopelessly deluded.
Going on percentages, I pass the *itch test. The bigger question is when faced with the problem that brought me to question myself what will I do? Woof. Freaking woof.
So I consulted askmen.com and found an article entitled "Top Ten Signs that she is a *itch". According to the website there were some tell tale signs that I am sure do not apply to me: bossing my man around and belittling him in public, flirting with other guys and being cold hearted and manipulative. The article also stresses that a *itch will slight you in bed. Laughable. Yep, could go a hundred million years and never worry about becoming that girl.
Of course, I did not get off scott free in the article. It also states, she expects to be treated like a queen. Well, duh. I am a woman. To quote the article "She constantly expects car rides, gifts and attention from you". Hmmm, could be nice and I clearly wouldn't be opposed to a ride to the job that helps pay the bills, or the occasional thoughtful gift or moment when it wasn't always about everybody else's life and their needs. The website is not clear on whether any of these things has had to ever actually happen in order to make me an evil witch or if only my pipe dream that they might gives me the title.
Lastly, the most questionable subject of all comes up, when the story states that *itches are selfish and treat people like trash. I am stumped. This one is a conundrum for me. Balance between my feelings and needs and those of others is a big fat red flag hot button issue. I have had someone who should have known better say "Its always about you isn't it?" Which would lead one to believe that I am a self centered fool. Am I?
I can only say that I try. Hard. I spend the vast majority of my day doing things that need to be done or that others want to do. I stand back when I feel I am imposing or boring or just not fun to be around. I look ahead to how my actions are going affect someone a week or a month or a year from now in addition to today. I often deprive myself of things or sleep to provide or give to others. I live biting my tongue because I know how defeating it is to hear complaint after complaint. Personally, I do not see myself as selfish. I treat people pretty well. I just get uncomfortable because the feedback I get on the subject is so negative. Perhaps my self view is hopelessly deluded.
Going on percentages, I pass the *itch test. The bigger question is when faced with the problem that brought me to question myself what will I do? Woof. Freaking woof.
