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Saturday, May 30, 2026

Time





Whoa, some schools impact you for life.

  Home base in childhood; for me at least.  Unlike a lot of my friends. I had the safety and comfort of elementary school usually for a few months at a time.  I believe I spent one and half or two years at Simcoe Street school and a whole year at Greendale.  I know my parents managed to have me enrolled for a whole 3 days at Helix...before deciding to pass me back to Centennial in Hamilton.

Just a few of the many, many moves with new teachers, friends and rules. Yet, I loved school. It was the best place I could be from age 4-17.  It didn't matter to me if I was in French school like I was in pre-K, Catholic school where I spent half those years, or the various public schools of the Golden Horseshoe:  each one welcomed me, brought me structure, hope and oh yes, education too.

Saint Annes though was a different sort of bird.   I landed there sometime in grade five due to a move with Mum and the sister she was living with:  for a few winter months in the middle of the school year of 1979-1980. 

Just a few months, but wow, unforgettable.   A whole different world even to all the other catholic schools I had breezed in and out of over the past 7 years.  Mandatory 1/4 rosary in the morning, quick and instant detention, even the schoolyard (huge as it seemed to be)  had a subdued and reverent feel. Mandatory  Mass on the weekend where attendance was taken by an Altar Boy: if he wasn’t busy bragging about peeing in the Holy Water font or sneaking sips of Communion Wine in the vestry.

My tentative friends admonished me for the slightest infraction:  don't say a cross word, keep the volleyball on this side of the door, wear your hat or Look out, you will end up writing Time!

Ah, writing time!  The ultimate punishment, save the strap, that filled us with fear.  Now, don’t be alarmed if you have no idea what I am on about: writing Time was about as alien to me at ten as it likely is to you.  I soon found out though.


 At St. Anne’s if your teacher thought you wasted her time: you were handed several sheets of foolscap and the Dictionary .  You were instructed to turn to the word Time.  Depending on the severity of your infraction you were instructed to copy by hand the dictionary definition of the word time onto those endless blank reams of paper.

Did you ask a dumb question?   Write the definition once.

Were you whispering to your friends in class?  Five times.

Were you truly being disrespectful or disruptive?  10 times.




No one dared step out of line really.  Your hand would cramp instantly at the thought of being naughty.  Also, naughty as defined by the Nuns is a very different gauge of what is and isn’t acceptable.

I have never experienced a group of children so completely cowed and cowering before or since.

I didn’t have the confidence then to express how badly I would have liked to return to my former Public School, Centennial.   Situated in a grubby area of Hamilton just across town next to another school called Bennetto lay a beautiful oasis for child development.  Mr Russ’s classroom felt like a slice of pie, with whipped cream served daily in your favourite flavour.

He brought in parachutes for us, held contests where the winner got McDonald’s,and specially ordered science kits that arrived in giant wooden crates. Excitement at the sight of a wooden crate was instant- something great is happening today! My core memory was the develop-your -own -film science kit.

A bunch of cheap cameras.  A trip to the park by my house.  A gorgeous fall day where it still feels like summer. I’d been there lots but this day was special.  “Take pictures of whatever you want guys!   The bay, the birds, your friends or a blade of grass. It’s up to you.”

Cut to our classroom the next day- weird black plastic bags that fit over our arms:  the cameras placed into them from the other side and zipped in along with a circular container.   We were instructed to carefully remove the film from our camera, place it in the container and close the lid.

The containers, which were similar to a short soup thermos, were then removed. They had a small spout with a cap.  Our next step as ten year old scientists was to add some foul smelling chemicals to that spout.  Thermoses lined up on the back counter by the class Guinea pig and it was time for lunch and tetherball.

We returned a truly noisy bunch to a classroom with a new blue clothesline.  At some point, after the required time elapsed we were allowed to carefully open those film canisters and hang up our precious strip of negatives.

On day three we were given a few sheets of photo paper.  Told to place our negative on a paper, given a strange contraption with a light bulb. We sat our masterpieces under our individual lights and waited hopefully.

Like magic, images of our friends, the water, the sky appeared in lovely sepia colour.  I had those 3 little photos for years until one move or another disappeared them.

Yes, it was an awful neighbourhood. Yes I was confronted at that tender age with fistfights and threats and a random dude at that same park on another day who was bigger, stronger and sucker punched me because he felt like it.  It was 1979. 

However, that was a tiny price to pay to be part of Mr. Russ’s world.  ðŸŒŽ. I wonder often what happened to him? I hope that his career and life were fantastic.  He deserved to win the lottery and be given a Harley and a kitten just for the half year that I spent in his class.   I cannot imagine how many others feel exactly the same.

It’s been over 45 years.  I can’t forget how valued I felt in that classroom and how free.

In my weird and varied educational experience I have known some amazing teachers: Mr Russ, Mr. Dodson, Mr Mavor  Mz Vukobratic Mr Schoenfeld:  that’s just five of many! I have known quite awful ones who’s names are lost on me now and who’s memory I have probably blocked for good reason.

In my adult life I know so many teachers: really super good ones. Some retired, but with stellar histories of caring for kids.  Teaching, encouraging and inspiring.  

For those who are still out there fighting the good fight everyday-  I see you.  I thank you.  I hope someday that 45 years from now a sentimental grown child remembers you.






Saturday, June 3, 2017

Experiment Awry

Back in the mid90's at my wits end with my kids teacher, I decided to try a small experiment in behavior modification.  I was pretty desperate for a solution.  When you are 25, busy, working, going to school and taking care of two kids and a house there isn't all the much time to be called into the grade 1 class and forced to sit in a mini chair listening to a high strung teacher grumble.  But for three months I was forced to do that daily.

No amount of communication could get Madame to see she was part of the problem. No suggestions from me ever made it past her sardonic smile. I had a bored child on my hands.  My Darling girl whos mind outthought most adults and who had set out to make school fun.  A teacher who had a love affair with conformity. Who found my little beans brilliance serial killer level disturbing.  Somehow, out of that situation I found myself getting served with Grade 1 Detention ad infinitum.

Unable to convince Madame to try anything new I turned to the one person I could influence.  I explained to my baby that her hijinks were rather unwelcome.  "But its soooooo borrrrrrring Mummy".  I know Baby. You only have about 20 more years of oft boring teachers to deal with.  No worries, we are going to try something.

I knew I was going against the permissive grain of the parents around me.  ( Deep breath! Be brave.). Baby, take this little elastic and wear it as a bracelet. Okay. Now every time you want to get out of your seat, feel you need to tell your friends to ask unanswerable questions, shoot spit balls from your drinking box straw or tell your teacher a wild, wild story and prove her gullibility please give your wrist a little snap. Worked charmingly. No more detentions for Mom. Just 8 hours of one bored kid 5 days a week and Madame had no problem with that.

Enter the nosy Mom!  Having seen how my 90's version of the fidget spinner restored classroom peace for me Mom 1, the self appointed Mayor of Grade 1 parents, decided it was just the ticket for her bored child, too.  A day later I hear her shrill complaint.

The school called and gave her a movie of the week level warning about self mutilation. Turns out that instead of a tiny snap to remind oneself to be good her Darling decided to try to use the trick to change her friends behavior.  No matter how much she twisted that elastic....or how blue her fingers turned her friends remained annoying. Odd.

I hadnt forseen that extrapolation of my experiment. For a six year old it was a brilliant thesis. Missed one minor given, that's all. Nothing in this world you do can force another human to change. You can complain whine cry manipulate and even dominate but real change is all the other persons deal. Sorry Bunny. That's just the way it is.

We would like it to be easier to change people. As Mom and Dads, bosses and employees, lovers, friends. Unfortunately, behavior rises from so many competing factors. Personality is a strange mix of biology, experience and current and past social mores.  Behavior takes all that and then adds quality of sleep, nutrition, the environment and available tools and pops out something new at the end. It can be fantastic. It can be dismal.

Still, all we can do as humans is change ourselves.  If we change enough then sometimes people around us must change to adjust. We control how much or how little other's behavior can affect us. Our own level of tolerance determines how easy or hard that will be.  We can choose to be like Jello. Just let the cream poor over us and jiggle- largely unchanged. We can choose to stir and become a yukky mess of gelatin and dairy. Changed largely by our own reactions and behavior.

This is our human truth. Even now in the " new millennium" where we teach our children its their right to be offended by anything. Like that is a healthy notion. Sorry, kids, your rights, your feelings, your discomfort still ends at the tip of the next guys nose. Agree or disagree, be offended or dont- theres only one person we each truly control. The self.